36 questions to fall in love

Just watched a Ted Talk from Mandy Len Catron. She wrote an article on the New York Times about her own experiment of falling in love with stranger through asking 36 questions and 4 minutes of gazing each other. These questions begin with some more general view about other’s life experience and continue with some more personal questions that lead to intimate answer. Here are the 36 questions. Why don’t give it a shot? 🙂

https://mobile.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html

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The job you know it exists but simply never really thought about.

Happy birthday to my Sagittarian sister ketemu gedhe @agliestagaluh ! Instagram, meet Galuh. She is one of the most big-hearted persons I’ve ever met..

It all started when she came to the NL and stayed at my place for a couple of days, we went to Bruges and had to stay over in Antwerp, just because we were so ignorant about our train schedule. It was quite an adventure though.

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A few months later I visited her in Berlin, and stayed for 10 days! She introduced me to all of her friends and showed me corners of Berlin, everything, except what she was exactly doing as a job there. Everytime I casually asked her about her job. I never had any impression of her complaining, hating it, or having any negative thoughts about it. I might be wrong. I got the impression that it wasn’t that she didn’t want to tell what her job was or being ashamed with it, but she was sorting out the most digestible information for me.

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And it was only on my last day in Berlin that I seriously asked her, what her job really was. Then she explained to me everything. She worked as a volunteer at a nursing home for mentally & physically disabled persons. She told me that it was all hard at first, she cried all night for the first days of her work. She didn’t know about the job she’d be doing, only after she arrived in Germany, that she did know about it. So I decided to spend my last day in Berlin to visit her workplace, was grateful that I was allowed to. It is a private nursing home (looks like an ordinary 3-bedroom apartment), with only three patients (two female & one male) having disabilities.

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After greeting all the caretakers & the patients, I was invited to have dinner with them, all of them. That was a quite experience for me, being on the same table with people who could barely hold their spoon properly & other stuffs & other stuffs, etc. I am just not so fond to describe what it felt to me that time, it was all new to me. That world that I never really thought about, now seems so alive and kicking. In short, her job is supporting the life of these people, in all possible ways u could imagine, from when they wake up until their bedtime. .

Big & brave heart! Have a blast Luh! 🌷

Kuliah di Prancis

Ada yang tau bangunan ini? Ada yang mau kuliah di sini? Salah satu universitas tertua di Eropa yang telah melahirkan banyak filsuf, pembuat kebijakan, dan petinggi perusahaan, baik di Prancis maupun di setiap sudut dunia. Untuk bisa berkuliah di Prancis, kalian memang (setengah) diwajibkan untuk cakap berbicara, menulis, dan mendengar bahasa Prancis, meskipun kuliah kalian (ada yang) berbahasa Inggris. Pengalaman kuliah di Prancis jauh berbeda dari pengalaman berkuliah di negara lain. Di sini kita diajarkan untuk berpikir dengan cara berpikir orang Prancis yang kadang bisa dibilang “nyeleneh”, “out of the box”, dan “sangat Prancis”, karena being authentic or even more, being singular, is what they expect you to be, to exist..

Paris, 2016

First Dutch lessons! 

[Tilburg, 2016] So today I had my first tandem Dutch class with Ms Dini, one of my neighbors. As I have mentioned somewhere in my earlier image caption, I love Dutch as a language because it is a (sort of) combination of two languages that I have (struggled to) learned for years, German and French. By knowing French pronunciation, it helps me get the [khrei] sound of /g/ letter, while my German baggage endorses the whole package of Dutch grammar understanding. So today’s lesson was how to take public transportation, then we strolled around the city, kijken kijken niet kopen, went to public library, and had small lunch. I had een pannekoeken met appel for lunch. I’ll post some videos on my Dutch lessons later on. 😂🙈 goede middag allemaal! 🌷

I learned about the use of “aan”, some useful phrases for taking public transportation, and how to be a member at Tilburg Public Library. I basically know some basic Dutch grammar, but sometimes I was not sure about myself when I spoke in Dutch, so most of the time, I preferred to use English. Lol

Moving in (part 1) Kerasnya pindah rumah di Belanda

[Tilburg, 2016] Berbahagialah kita hidup di Indonesia, (mungkin Jakarta pengecualian, tapi masih lebih mending) yang manusianya masih manusiawi. Selama hidup di luar negeri saya jarang komplain tentang sikap individualistik dari orang-orang di negara saya tinggal. Saya selalu bilang pada diri saya, “ya memang budaya mereka begitu. Beda dengan di Indonesia yang masih kental dengan semangat gotong royong, atau setidaknya dengan adegan-adegan basa-basi yang cukup mentally helpful.” Saya sedang pindahan ke apartemen baru, pertama kali merasakan pindahan ke tempat baru yang sama sekali belum ada furniturenya. I thought it was gonna be challenging and super fun to have my own styled apartment. It turned out to be tear jerker. Saya beli meja makan kayu, besar, berat. Pengantar barangnya keberatan untuk mengantar sampai apartmen saya karena mejanya nggak muat di lift. Akhirnya si meja ditinggal di depan lift. Dia bilang, harus buka skrup (apa namanya itu baut segedha-gedha gaban). Pergilah saya beli kunci Inggris, obeng dan segala perkakas. Dengan masih semangat. Sampai di rumah, saya langsung berusaha untuk buka skrup itu tadi. 15 menit. Belum gerak. Setengah jam. Baru 3 skrup dan itu pun salah. Satu jam. Saya nyerah dan memutuskan untuk naik kembali ke apartemen. Yang bikin saya gedheg, bingung, dan kesel ada selama sejam itu seliweran berapa PULUH ORANG lewat with no single “Hey”, “anything wrong?”, apalagi “Do you need help”. Most of them even didn’t dare to look at me, trying to avoid any eye contact with me who definitely seemed to be super struggling. Is this how modern society should live by? Then I’m not proud to be part of it. #Riphumanity #ignorance #atitsbest !!!

Spotlights!

[Jakarta, 2016] I was in shock for the last three days. When I heard from a friend that not only this article got published, but also it went (goes) viral. And for the second time got featured on Line Today. That’s amazing. I didn’t even dare to dream of it to happen. I’ve read (not all) the comments on Line Today, which was amounting to almost 500 comments, 80% were positive. Thank you. Thank you so much. It feels surreal. Within a day I got more than 400 followers. Thank you again. I hope my journey and struggles could inspire many of us cause you guys do inspire me a lot. Like a lottttt. Thank you abundantly to @chichafrancisca for writing this article (and happy birthday hey!), and to @rangianti who recommended me to @idntimes ! ❤️💐

 

https://life.idntimes.com/education/francisca-christy/abellia-calon-doktor-muda-27-tahun-asal-indonesia-berbagi-cerita-soal-beasiswa